Now this might seem like a strange title but it’ll make sense as I go through it I’m sure.

There are a couple of themes working through this: 1) expectations you have about your life, and 2) expectations you have about others. Two seemingly separate themes but which are, in fact, quite intertwined at times.

Firstly, let’s focus on the expectations you have for your life. Have you ever really contemplated about what you expect of your life and what each day brings? Is it something that you do actively, every single day (or even for every single thing you undertake!). It can be quite easy to go through life with all sorts of expectations that you’re unaware of, but which help to create the life you are living. Then there are those expectations that you are aware of, and they can often be things like: This will never work out; I’m just not that lucky; today is going to be a crappy day; I’ll never be able to get the things I want.

The thing is with these negative expectations is that we’re so used to hearing ourselves say them that we don’t necessarily realise that we are even thinking them. Life will always respond to your expectations and live up to them. The key is really knowing what it is you are expecting! You’ve probably heard it said before that energy follows thought, and therefore it is our thoughts that create our reality, and also the experiences we attract into our life. Therein lies part of the many problems we face: we don’t always pay enough attention to what we are thinking, and so go about creating difficult and unpleasant situations for ourselves. It’s often then that we blame other people or other things for what has happened, rather than taking responsibility for our own thoughts and expectations.

The other thread to this is our expectations of other people. It’s not uncommon (c’mon we’ve all been there!) where we’ve had expectations of something from others who’ve not lived up to them. Do you remember ever hearing someone say to you “You really have not lived up to my expectations”. Ooof! That’s a harsh one isn’t it! Having expectations of others is trying to cause them to do what you want them to do, rather than allowing them the freedom and power to make decisions for themselves. Remember those times when people expected you to do something they wanted you to do and got upset when you didn’t. The only times we ever get cross with others is when they don’t do what we want and/or in the way we want them to. End of. It can feel incredibly controlling when others try to force us into doing what they expect us to, especially when it goes against our own guidance system and what feels right to us. We don’t like being forced to live up to others’ expectations, so why should we expect them to live up to ours?

Our expectations – the healthy and helpful ones that is – are much better placed when they’re focused upon expectations we have about our lives and ourselves. Rather than expecting others to behave the way you want them to, expect yourself to remain as centred as you can and able to deal with anything that happens. Rather than expecting to have a crappy day, expect instead to have a great day, where you’re able to have fun and deal with any challenges that come your way.

Let go of negative expectations about yourself and your life, and let go of expectations you have of others. The Universe respects the Divine Right of Freewill and will respond to expectations that pertain to our Self and our life, not to how we expect others to be. Life will flow so much better when we all deal with our own expectations rather than worry about other peoples’.

Expect a deliciously, wonderful, exciting, brilliant, challenging, evolving, joyful, loving, peaceful, sharing, fandabbydozy life…. And you know what… that’s what the Universe will help you create!